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100 Sexting Ideas So Hot They'll Melt Your Phone

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Whether you're a week, a month, or a decade into a relationship, there's always room to spice things between you and your partner up—even if you're not in the same room. Perhaps the easiest way to inject a little heat into your coupling is the quickest, as well: We're talking about the sext, of course. Sexting, a form of communication that used to be considered somewhat taboo—or at least best left to teenagers—is becoming increasingly standard pre-game fare for the majority of adults.

In fact, a recent study from Drexel University revealed that, out of 870 adults polled, 80 percent admitted to engaging in some digital dirty talk in the past year. And sexting may actually be good for you: According to a study published in the journal Computers in Human Behavior, half of the participants who regularly sent sexts reported feeling that their sexting yielded positive outcomes, whether those were emotional or sexual.

However, in a world where virtually every flavor of porn is available at the touch of a button, it's going to take more than a run-of-the-mill message to get your partner (or that cute Tinder match) eager to race home and ravage you. So we've eliminated the legwork and rounded up the dirtiest, steamiest, most outrageously hot sexting examples you'll be aching to send.

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A Simple Sexting Tip

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Before we dive in, a quick reminder: Sexting should be handled with care. Before you initiate that type of correspondence, be sure that the person you're engaging with has enthusiastically consented to the exchange.

"You don't want to get carried away because it's easy to put the other person in an uncomfortable situation before you know how they like it," therapist and sex educator Vanessa Marin explained to Mashable. While a sexy text can certainly help raise the temperature, it can also have the opposite effect (or even cause harm) when directed at someone who isn't interested. (And yes, voicemail messages and memos fall under the same umbrella here).

So please, before you decide to rattle off any R-rated material, it's important to make your intentions clear. Beyond that, be sure you and the person on the other end of the line are on the same page and only stick to things they actually want to hear.

Sexting Ideas for When You've Just Started Dating

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  1. I want you to undress me with your teeth.
  2. Come over. Bring handcuffs.
  3. Let's act out your wildest fantasy when you come over.
  4. Dessert is on me tonight—literally.
  5. Want to watch me strip?
  6. I've been thinking about seeing you naked all day.
  7. Come over and tell me if you think my bikini waxer did a good job?
  8. Let me show you what I learned in pole-dancing class.
  9. When you come over later, don't wear anything you don't want me ripping off of you.
  10. I had a sexy dream about you. Come over and let's act it out.
  11. Come show me if you're as good in bed as I've been imagining.
  12. Thinking about all the things I'd do to you is making it really hard to work today.
  13. Do you like it from behind? I sure do.
  14. I just got out of the shower. Help me get dirty again.
  15. I'm going insane thinking about being inside you.
  16. Tonight, I'm the boss.
  17. You better not break eye contact when you finish.
  18. I want to ride you like a pony.
  19. I'm going to make you beg me for it tonight.
  20. Can you come over and tell me if this skirt is too short?

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Best Sexting Messages to Send to Your Boyfriend

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  1. I want to watch you take all of your clothes off slowly.
  2. Do you think you can spank me hard enough to leave a mark?
  3. I learned a new blowjob technique. Can I practice on you?
  4. They say idle hands are the devil's playthings, but don't worry: I've got a great idea about how you can occupy them.
  5. Have you ever had anal sex? Want to?
  6. I want you to dominate me tonight.
  7. I want to write the alphabet with my tongue inside you.
  8. I've been horny all day. Think you can finish me off?
  9. How loud do you think you can make me scream before the neighbors complain?
  10. Tell me the dirtiest thing you've ever done. I bet I can do better.
  11. I'm gonna make you come so hard you can't remember your name.
  12. The only thing I want to eat for dinner tonight is you.
  13. I want to have sex with you in public. I don't care if we get caught.
  14. I want to worship your body tonight.
  15. How many times do you think we can have sex before I wear you out? Let's investigate.
  16. I'll let you put it anywhere you want.
  17. Tell me what you imagine when you touch yourself.
  18. If you knew what I was going to do to you later, you'd leave work now.
  19. Remember the first time we had sex? Let's reenact it later.
  20. I'm going to use your face as my chair.

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Best Sexting Ideas for Him

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  1. I've been bad. I need you to come home and punish me.
  2. You're the only person who could ever get me this hot.
  3. Pick me up at a bar tonight. I'll be the one without any underwear on.
  4. Let's give the neighbors a show later.
  5. I want it rough tonight.
  6. You can do whatever you want to me when you get home.
  7. I just bought a new vibrator. Help me wear out its batteries.
  8. What are your thoughts on threesomes? Come home soon and my friend and I will show you ours.
  9. I got whipped cream all over me. Come lick it off.
  10. I've been in bed all day thinking about what I want to do to you.
  11. Tonight I'm going to tease you until you can't stand it.
  12. I want you to relax and let me do whatever you want.
  13. I can't wait for you to get home. I'll be waiting for you naked.
  14. I'm thinking about you tying me up, and it's getting me so hot.
  15. I thought of something dirty I want to try tonight. Come home, and I'll show you.
  16. I can't stop thinking about last night. Let's do that again.
  17. I just bought something really sexy, and I can't wait to show you what it is.
  18. I hope you didn't have plans tonight, because I need to feel you inside me.
  19. You better prepare yourself for a wild ride, because I've been dreaming about you all day.
  20. Tell me every dirty thing you want to do to me.

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Best Sexting Examples for Her

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  1. I can't wait to whisper in your ear all the things I'm going to do to you.
  2. I can't get any work done today because I can't stop thinking about your breath on my neck.
  3. I wish you were here right now so I could show you what I'm thinking of.
  4. Tonight, we're going to play teacher and I'm going to give you a hell of a lesson in bed.
  5. I want you to tease me until I lose my mind.
  6. I'm naked in bed fantasizing about you right now.
  7. Tell me what you think when you fantasize about me.
  8. Nobody can make me feel as good as you do.
  9. I want to pick up where we left off last night.
  10. I've been naughty. What are you going to do about it?
  11. Cancel your morning plans, because I'm going to keep you up all night.
  12. I love the way it feels when you pull my hair.
  13. I'm sitting at work wishing you were here because I don't want to wait until tonight.
  14. Fantasizing about the way you touch me is making me want you so bad.
  15. I can't wait to make you scream my name.
  16. Tonight I'm going to lick every inch of your body.
  17. I'm touching myself thinking about you. Tell me what you want me to do.
  18. I want you to hold me down and make me your slave.
  19. Wait until you see what I'm not wearing under my clothes.
  20. Thinking about how you feel inside of me has got me so hot right now.

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Best Sexts If You're Married

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  1. Tonight I want to spoil you.
  2. It's too bad you're not here right now, because I would be all over you.
  3. Let's try something new tonight. Use your imagination because I'm yours.
  4. I can't wait to crawl into bed with you and do all the things I've been fantasizing about all day.
  5. I'm wearing that lingerie you like just for you.
  6. When I close my eyes, I can feel your hand running up my thigh and under my skirt.
  7. Guess what I'm thinking. Here's a hint: it involves my tongue and you moaning.
  8. I'm not wearing any underwear. Just thought you should know.
  9. Tonight I'm going to take off your clothes and kiss every part of you so slowly that you're begging to take me.
  10. I was just thinking about how good you looked in that shirt when you left this morning. I can't wait to take it off tonight.
  11. I'm completely naked and thinking about you. Want a preview?
  12. I want to feel you pressed against me and me pressed against the wall.
  13. Tonight I'm going to have my way with you until you're pleading for mercy.
  14. I know exactly what you want, and I'm going to give it to you, if you're lucky.
  15. I'm aching to be touched by you. I can't stand it.
  16. I'm going to make you show me how bad you want it.
  17. Bring home some Gatorade, because I'm giving you a workout tonight.
  18. I've been working on some new yoga positions, and I can't wait to show you how limber I am.
  19. You were so good to me last time. It's my turn to return the favor.
  20. I'm looking forward to the moment I slide inside you and feel you wrapped around me.

Wrapping Up

That's it for our list of sexting ideas, but be sure to check back with us soon for even more ways to heat up your relationship. You can also sign up for our newsletter so you don't miss out on what's next!

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