This Is the City Where You’re Most Likely to Be Ghosted
And the international ghosting capital of the world is...
If you’ve ever ventured into the world of online dating, chances are you’ve either ghosted someone, been ghosted, or experienced both. The term “ghosting” describes the custom of ignoring someone’s attempts at contacting you and excommunicating them from your life without explaining why you don’t want to date them anymore. Along with dating terms like “breadcrumbing,” “shelving,” “orbiting,” and “benching,” it’s a sure sign that basic dating etiquette has gone out the window in today’s day and age. But there’s one city in the world that’s particularly notorious for ghosting—and it’s right here in America.
The 2019 Time Out Index—a survey of 30,000 people living in 48 cities around the world—has deemed New York the city where you’re most likely to be ghosted. According to the survey, 41 percent of New Yorkers say they’ve ghosted someone.
To be honest, we suspect that the Time Out Index survey participants weren’t entirely forthcoming either. After all, we are talking about the practice of forgoing rudimentary consideration in favor of disappearing from someone’s life without so much as a text message. And also, consider this data: A 2018 Western University paper (delightfully titled When Your Boo Becomes a Ghost) found that 65 percent of people aged 18-35 had ghosted a partner, and 72 percent had been ghosted by a partner.
Though the numbers don’t quite add up, the stories Time Out collected are truly the stuff of dating nightmares. “One time, a guy ghosted me in the middle of a show,” one survey respondent said. “He said he had to go to the bathroom and then just never came back. Ever.”
Another participant said in April a woman didn’t respond to their simple “What’s up?” text. Then, the participant wrote, “an entire 11 months later, she casually wrote back: ‘Nothing much, how about you?’” (This behavior, by the way, is referred to as “zombieing,” due to its resemblance to coming back from the dead.)
The Big Apple also isn’t the only contender for the Miss Ghosting USA crown. According to a February 2019 survey of more than 5,000 American singles from Match.com, the title actually goes to Austin, Texas, where 75 percent of singles have admitted to ghosting. Next up on Match’s ghosting hit parade is San Antonio (60 percent), then Los Angeles (54 percent), followed by Baltimore (53 percent), and finally Nashville (52 percent) rounds out the top five.
Guess that old George Strait song was ahead of its time; all your exes live in Texas, and none of them are planning on returning your calls. And for state trivia, check out The Most Hard-to-Believe Fact About Every State.
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