5 Questions That Mean Someone Is Attracted to You
You may want to pay attention to what someone is asking you.
Attraction often breeds curiosity. When we find ourselves interested in someone, we want to know more about that person—and in order to do so, we'll ask them questions. But how can you know the difference between polite inquiries and those that mean something more? Talking to relationship experts, we gathered some insight into exactly what questions people tend to ask when they're attracted to another person. Read on to find out what you should be listening for.
"What do you think about…?"
Many people will hold conversations about relevant world topics with others out of courtesy. But if someone is directing questions to you specifically to get your insight on the matter, it could be a good sign, Sarah Watson, PsyD, certified coach and the chief operating officer at BPTLAB, tells Best Life.
So, if someone asks you something like "What do you think about…?" or "What would be your opinion on…?", it may be a sign that they are genuinely interested in your thoughts and opinions—which indicates attraction, according to Watson. "People usually ask this when they find the other person intellectually stimulating and want to know their perspective on things."
"When can I see you again?"
If someone is attracted to you, it's likely that they're already thinking about when they'll be able to see you again. "This question shows that the person is interested in spending more time with you and is looking to make plans," says David Tzall, PsyD, a licensed psychologist based in New York City.
They may even try to make plans to see you again themselves, according to Watson. She says a clear sign of attraction is them taking the initiative by asking you things like "Can I come visit you?" or "Do you want to meet up for dinner sometime soon?"
"How was your day?"
It's become so normal for people to ask others how they are that, in many cases, we don't care about an answer. But when a person is attracted to you, they might go out of their way to actually ask you, "How was your day?" according to Watson.
"If someone asks how your day was just out of the blue, it could be a sign that they are looking for ways to keep the conversation going and make you feel special," she explains. "It shows that they care about what's going on in your life and want to be part of it."
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"Are you single?"
No one wants to waste their time on someone who isn't available. So some potential suitors prefer to skip beating around the bush and ask if you're single. According to Tzall, this is a "pretty good indicator" that someone is attracted to you since they're not likely to show interest in your romantic life otherwise.
"This is a foundation question as it establishes the boundaries of your interactions," he explains. "If the person is not single then the individual knows what they are allowed and not to do. If the person is single, then you can pursue them and ask them out."
"What do you look for in a partner?"
Someone might try to dive even further into another person's romantic life if they are interested in that way. According to Joyce Marter, LCPC, a licensed psychotherapist and author of The Financial Mindset Fix, they may do this by asking what you find attractive in other people or what you're looking for in a potential partner. "These questions indicate attraction because they are screening if you might potentially become attracted to them or not."