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This Bride Is Being Slammed for Asking Her Maid of Honor to Lose Weight for Her Wedding

Sadly, she's not the only one who's done this.

Brides have long had a reputation for going a little overboard, but it seems like their demands are getting more outlandish by the year. One anonymous bride, for example, recently went viral for imposing a "dress code" on her guests based on their weight. Now, people are slamming another anonymous bridezilla for asking her maid of honor to shed a few pounds for the big affair.

The maid of honor posted on Reddit that her friend is a personal trainer who's marrying another personal trainer. "I have known her since we were both five," the Redditor wrote. "Well, tonight, she called me with the 'best' news. Her fiancé and her are putting together a great workout and meal plan for me. They figure if I drop 20 to 30 pounds, the wedding pictures will be more 'symmetric.' She was so happy and excited, like she was doing me a favor."

The Redditor was pretty stunned by the request, especially since she's a size 10. "I wasn't even sure what to say, so I just hung up and haven't responded," she wrote. "I've never mentioned wanting to lose weight. They both just kind of took it upon themselves to 'help me.'"

She added that while she was obviously going to "opt out of being maid of honor," she wasn't even sure she wanted to attend the wedding anymore, and asked other users if they thought the bride's suggestion was reasonable.

The overwhelming response was a resounding "no."

"Someone that superficial wasn't and isn't worthy of your friendship," Reddit user @Northstarmom wrote. "Bridesmaids should be picked by the depths of friendship, not their looks."

Unfortunately, however, it seems like the situation this Redditor is in is by no means uncommon.

"The bride that I'm maid of honor for kicked out a newly pregnant bridesmaid because the bride didn't think an eight-month pregnant woman would look good in the wedding party photos," Reddit user @re272727 wrote.

"I have a friend who is getting married in nine months and she literally told me to stop trying for a baby for the next six months so I wouldn't be pregnant at her wedding," Reddit user @squegley added. "She knows I'm having trouble conceiving. I don't know whether to be understanding or upset about her saying that."

If you find yourself in the same position as some of these Reddit users and want to salvage the friendship, experts advise having a heart-to-heart discussion when both parties are feeling (at least relatively) calm. "Take her to coffee or lunch and say something along the lines of … 'I understand that you want the perfect wedding, and we all want the same for you. I can't help but notice that you're letting the stress of the wedding get the best of you. What can I do to help?'" etiquette expert Diane Gottsman told Brides. She added, "Let her know you love her and are willing to help, but there have to be some common courtesy boundaries." Hopefully, the aforementioned Redditors heed that advice. And for a much more uplifting wedding story, check out Bride Has Every Guest Wear Old Wedding Dresses, Goes Viral.

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Diana Bruk
Diana is a senior editor who writes about sex and relationships, modern dating trends, and health and wellness. Read more
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