There are two goals to strive for in a new friendship: To learn more about the other person and to get them to like you. And according to researchers over at the Harvard Business Review, asking questions can help you accomplish them both. Other academics have even highlighted specific questions that can help accelerate the bond between two people. Certain prompts do a better job of uncovering specific personality traits and overcoming differences than others do.
Even if you disregard the science, asking questions of the other person when you're in a conversation is just good manners. It demonstrates a genuine interest in them, something sure to help evolve any relationship. So, whether you're trying to reconnect with an old pal or are in the process of getting to know a new connection better, be sure to keep reading below. We've put together an extensive list of the best questions to ask your friends.
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Important Things to Keep in Mind
Review the tips below before you start a conversation with any of these questions. They'll help you achieve the best possible outcome.
Don't forget about follow-up questions.
Typically, the goal of asking questions is to fall into a free-flowing conversation. To that end, ask follow-up questions to your friend's answers. This will help keep the dialogue fluid and prevent it from awkwardly fizzling out.
Try to keep things open-ended.
You never know where a conversation is going to go, and that's a good thing. Be flexible, and think of these questions more as conversation starters than something that might warrant an immediate and concrete response.
Pay attention to group dynamics.
Some questions are more personal than others. Pay attention to who is around and think about which questions you might want to save for when you and your friend have a moment alone. Also, try to put yourself in their shoes. Which questions would you want to answer in front of a large group of people and which would you want to reserve for a more intimate space?
Consider your timing.
Again, certain questions are heavier than others. Try not to get too personal too quickly, especially with someone who needs time to open up and get comfortable. Also, don't change the topic too quickly when someone shares something intimate. You also don't want to appear insensitive or disinterested.
Wrapping Up
That's it for our list of questions to ask your friends! Be sure to check back with us soon for more ways to break the ice. You can also sign up for our newsletter so you don't miss out on what's next!
