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Couples Who Do This One Thing Are 40 Percent Less Likely to Divorce

Doing this before marriage will improve your chances of staying together.

The relationship that comes before you tie the knot sets the precedent for what married life will be like, and there are quite a few things you can do before getting hitched to ensure that your union is built on a solid foundation. Engaging in in-depth discussions on everything from having children to combining finances helps you ensure you're with a compatible partner, but while these moments should be checked off the list pre-nuptials, they take time. That may be why a 2014 study found that couples who dated for at least three years before getting engaged were 39 percent less likely to get divorced than couples who dated less than a year before getting engaged. Read on to learn why dating longer can help your marriage, and for another divorce determinant to avoid, The More Money You Spend on This, the More Likely You Are to Divorce.

According to the study, published in Social Science Research Network, couples who dated for one to two years before their engagement were 20 percent less likely to divorce than couples who dated under a year. This number shoots up to 39 percent when you tack on another year of dating.

This finding should be a warning to all those eager to jump into marriage moments after meeting each other. The years preceding your marriage are when you get to really know someone. Without that time forming a bond and gaining a deep understanding of your partner, experts say you could be marrying someone that's not truly right for you. And that often doesn't end well.

Couple going for a walk after a date

Marriage and family therapist and author Sharon Gilchrest O'Neill says in her experience, couples who only dated briefly before marriage "were more likely in therapy to admit that they had not known each other well enough to have made such a serious commitment."

Gilchrest O'Neill explains that these couples "come to realize how they idealized their partner in the beginning of getting to know each other, yet didn't allow themselves to acknowledge the unlovable behaviors/characteristics of their partners." She agrees that three years is generally a good amount of time to gain a deep understanding of your partner, which allows you to make an informed decision when choosing to get married.

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"The benefits to a few years of dating before marriage is learning about any warning signs. Eventually, the honeymoon phase wears off, and the true colors shine through," says relationship expert Lauren Peacock, the author of Female. Likes Cheese. Comes with Dog.: Stories About Divorce, Dating, and Saying "I Do." "It also can be a benefit because you can prepare yourself and take baby steps with the bigger, more exciting events, like moving in together or buying a house."

There's no question that getting married can be a life-changing thrill, but it's also one of the biggest decisions you can make. With that in mind, it may be worth taking a little extra time to build up to that moment so that you're confident in the partner you're choosing. And for more reasons marriages end prematurely, Women Focused on This One Thing Are 60 Percent More Likely to Get Divorced.

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