The world doesn’t give enough compliments, but that’s about to change. Hearing something nice about yourself never gets old, no matter how simple of a thing that might be — so why not spread the good vibes to those around you?
It doesn’t matter who you reach out to: co-workers, friends, strangers at the grocery store — you name it. The next time you feel the spark to dish out a compliment, go for it. And you better believe that person will be going about their day feeling better than ever.
Ready to unleash some confidence boosters? Have some of these 40 compliments on hand for the 40-something individuals in your life. And if you’re talking to a person under 40, consider one of these Amazing Compliments to Give Anyone Over 30.
Is that your sister?
Someone mistaking your daughter for your sister is the ultimate compliment. Whether it’s from super-youthful skin or being in ridiculously good shape, anyone in their forties is going to love thinking they fooled people into thinking they’re half their age. And for more ideas on how to make someone smile, take a look at the 70 Genius Tricks to Boost Your Confidence.
Your kids are so polite
By the time someone is in their forties, they could potentially have a child that’s college-aged or older. Hearing a compliment that all their hard work as a parent paid off over the years and they’ve raised such sweet, polite kids will feel really good.
You’re the only one who can get me out of a crappy mood
There’s nothing better than having someone in your life you can always go to when you need some major cheering up. The next time they’re helping you through your problems, give them a sincere thank you by telling them they always know exactly what to say to make everything better.
You always seem to read my mind
You know you’ve found your person where all it takes is a look to let each other know exactly what you’re thinking. Whether you’re trying to get out of an awkward conversation or too tired to speak (hey, it happens!), there’s nothing better than having that close of a relationship. The idea that you stop growing at 40 is just one of the 40 Biggest Myths About Life After 40–Busted!
You’re the type of person I used to wish for
Back before you found the love of your life, you probably had quite the checklist of qualities you were hoping for in a partner. Finding someone who’s exactly what you wished for and more is rare, but once you do, let them know — and never let go.
You’re a real-life Energizer Bunny
Know someone who’s always bouncing off the walls? Their Energizer Bunny ways aren’t just keeping them up-beat — it’s also adding a little pep into the steps of those around them. Give them a compliment to let them know just how much their positive energy affects others. And for more inspiration on spending time together, check out our guide to the 40 Best Hobbies to Take Up in Your 40s.
You always go above and beyond what I ask of you
While it’s easy to breeze through things in life, but there are always those people who take their time to go the extra mile, putting their heart and soul into everything they do. Even though they don’t do it for recognition, complimenting them on their actions will go a long way.
I feel most like myself when I’m with you
Once you really get to know someone, it’s not uncommon to feel more like yourself when you’re with them than you do when you’re by yourself. Whether they always make you feel full of life or bring out a goofy side you never even existed, let them know how much it means to you.
You always make me feel so at home when I visit
No one knows the struggle of trying to make a home feel like a home until they move into their own. Growing up, you probably loved how cozy your parents’ place was and all the thought that went into making it that way, from the warm throw blankets to the candles. When you notice someone else has went above and beyond to make their house inviting too, let them know.
Please teach me your money-managing ways
Even though someone in their forties might be great with their money now, that might not have been the case 10 years ago. If you’ve noticed how they’re always doing extra digging to score deals at the store or have worked hard to build up a savings, give them some praise — and maybe ask for some advice while you’re at it.
You’re really fun to talk to
Sometimes the best compliments are the small ones, and telling someone they’re simply really fun to talk to is one that always makes people smile. And yes, that’s whether those convos revolve about their babysitter drama or their cats.
I can always count on you
You might have a handful of flaky friends, but there’s always your one pal who comes through every single time. Instead of getting used to it, call attention to them constantly being there with a compliment: They’ll love knowing how much they’re appreciated.
I always learn things from you
Do you have someone in your life who’s always teaching you something new every time you sit down and have a conversation with them? Tell them how much you love all the knowledge and life experiences they bring to the table — and maybe even how those bits of information have helped you in your own life.
You make me want to be better
For those genuinely good, kind people who have true hearts of gold, tell them the way they live their lives is such an inspiration to you — and how seeing how they go about things makes you want to be better yourself.
I love spending time with you
Telling someone you love sending time with them seems like such a simple thing, but the compliment really goes a long way. If you genuinely look forward to seeing them and enjoy the conversations and adventures you have together, telling them will completely make their day.
You’re an excellent role model
Not much feels better than knowing other people look up to you and you’ve made a positive impact on the world. Tell those around you just how much of a role model they are — and how they’ve inspired you.
You never let me down
In today’s world, it’s really rare to find someone you can really count on and trust. If you have someone in your life who never fails to be there for you and has never let you down, tell them exactly how you feel.
I’m so impressed with your career
When you’re in your forties, you’ve probably worked your way up the office food chain. But no matter what position someone is in, commend them for their hard work over the years and let them know just how impressed you are with where they started and where they’ve ended up.
Your kids are always so thoughtful
Telling someone their kids are kind and thoughtful is not only a way to say their amazing parenting skills over the years have paid off, but it’s basically telling them they’re just as kind-hearted as those they’ve raised.
You always make me smile
Maybe it’s your barista or maybe it’s your best friend. Either way, having the power to make others smile is a great power to have and is always worthy of a nice compliment.
Please teach me your green thumb ways
Hey, being able to keep plants alive isn’t easy and anyone who has a home full of lush green succulents and palms deserves a compliment for what probably took years of trial and error to accomplish.
You’ve got some serious moves
Notice someone in their forties who has some major skills on the dance floor? Tell them — and maybe ask to join in! Whether it’s at a wedding or at a cocktail bar, anyone who’s not afraid to bust a move deserves a pat on the back.
You’re such a great listener
There are two types of people: Those who can rattle off about anything for hours, and those who love nothing more than sitting back and listening. It takes a lot to be a good listener, and if you have one in your life, toss a nice compliment their way to let them know how much it means to you that they’re always willing to lend their ear.
You’re in amazing shape
For some people in their forties, all that time spent at the gym over the years has definitely paid off. Don’t be afraid to commend someone for all their hard work: If they’re super in shape and inspire you to be better at hitting up those yoga classes yourself, tell them.
You’re a ridiculously good problem-solver
Is there anything better than knowing a problem-solver? Whether it’s relationship issues or problems around the house, they deserve some credit for always being able to take a situation and make it better.
You always have such interesting things to say
You know that person at the get-together who always has the best conversation starters? Compliment them on always having the most interesting things to say that never fails to make the night even better for everyone around them.
You’re so upbeat
Your co-worker is always in the best mood — even at 8 a.m. in the morning before coffee! — but probably never gets any praise for it. Let them know how their high-energy kicks off the day on a positive note for everyone else around them.
You always make me laugh
You don’t have to be a pro comedian to get complimented for being funny. If someone always seems to make you laugh, tell them — they’ll love knowing they were the reason you had a hilarious joke to tell later that day.
You’re a great secret-keeper
Finding someone who you can tell everything to and know they’re not going to spill all your secrets the next time they have a sip of wine is hard. But once you find them, you’ve gotta keep them close — so make sure you let them know their sealed lips are always appreciated.
You’re such a happy person
When you spend your time around happy people, you instantly start feeling happier yourself, just by association. If you have someone in your life who’s constantly spreading positive vibes, give them a nice compliment about how much they always brighten your day.
Your skin looks flawless
When people start getting older, it’s not uncommon to start feeling a little self-conscious about wrinkles — even though they should totally be embraced. If you know someone who’s getting down about hitting the big 4-0, let them know just how great they really do look.
You have such a contagious smile
Some smiles really do light up the room — so why not recognize them? Those people who are always happily grinning should know just how contagious their constantly cheery mood is.
You’re a force to be reckoned with
Know someone who’s always working hard to move up in the world, showing everyone else who’s boss along the way? Give them props for their determination; they’re a total powerhouse.
You don’t look a day over 30
Some people are extra good at taking care of themselves, from having nightly skincare routines to regular workout schedules — and it pays off. Compliment the women or men in your life who still look like they’re in their thirties when they’re in their forties for working so hard to take care of themselves, because it isn’t always easy.
You have a beautiful soul
Some people always put others before themselves, have such a positive outlook on life, and never fail to comfort those in need — and those are hard qualities to find. Tell the beautiful souls in your life just how much they light up everyone around them, just by being themselves.
You’re insanely talented
Maybe it’s at ping-pong, maybe it’s at fixing things, or maybe it’s at your job. Whatever it is, having someone tell you you’re good at something always feels incredible.
You’re so easy to trust
Trust is a hard thing to find, but once you have it with someone, you don’t let go. Compliment those individuals for always making it really easy to count on them, no matter what the situation is.
You look great today
Want to instantly brighten someone’s mood? Tell them how great they look. Maybe they came to work in a flashy new outfit or spent extra time doing their hair; either way, your compliment will make their day.
Your cookies could win a contest
No matter what age you are, having someone tell you you’re a great cook after slaving in the kitchen for hours — whether it’s on ridiculously good chocolate chip cookies or a 10-course meal — always feels great. The next time you’re visiting friends and love something they made, let them know.
Your heart is so big it could explode
Some people were born with big hearts and spend their entire lives doing everything they can for those around them, often forgetting to take care of themselves along the way. Let them know just how inspired you are by their kindness and what they do for others.
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