This Is the No. 1 Turn-off For Women Who Date Online

Even physical attraction can't make up for this dating dealbreaker, study says.

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If you've ever used an online dating site or smartphone app—and let's be honest, what single person in the last 10 years or so hasn't at least dabbled—you know they can be every bit as frustrating and overwhelming as they are exciting or fun. And the experience is never more so the former than when you match with someone you share a mutual attraction with only to have them abruptly cut off communication when you thought things were going well. It turns out that in these instances, especially when it's a woman who ends the conversation, there may be a very specific reason she did so—and probably not the one you might expect. A new study found that the number one turn-off for women when it comes to online dating is poor spelling and grammar.

For their recent study, word-finder site, Word Tips, polled 1,006 people (average age: 35) about the role that spelling, grammar, and vocabulary play in determining attractiveness while online dating. Respondents included in the data were required to have actively dated sometime in the past year, complete the entire survey, and pass an attention-check question in the middle of each survey. Of all those included in the results, 56 percent were men, 43 percent were women, and 1 percent identified with a nonbinary gender.

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In addition to finding poor spelling or grammar as their top turn-off, 45 percent of women said they wouldn't be interested in someone they met on a dating app who was "very physically attractive but used improper grammar or spelling"—almost two times the number of men (24 percent) who said the same thing.

Proper use of the English language is so important to romantic attraction that 47 percent of all respondents said that it was more attractive than receiving gifts, 43 percent said it was more attractive than someone paying for dinner, and 29 percent preferred it to receiving compliments from a romantic interest.

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Which grammar mistakes do women find most unforgivable when dating online? According to the survey, 60 percent said the incorrect usage of "they're," "their," and "there"; and 59 percent were irked by the misuse of "two," "too," and "to." Other dealbreakers included shortened words commonly used in texting. Using "u" for "you" turned off 45 percent of respondents, while acronyms like "brb" and "gtg" rubbed 43 percent of respondents the wrong way. And to learn when it will be safe to pursue romantic interests in real life again, check out Here's When You Can Safely Date Again.

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