4 Signs Your Partner Will Never Cheat, According to Therapists
If they have a certain set of personality traits, you're in the clear.
Cheating is one of the biggest sins you can commit in a relationship. It destroys trust, creates anxiety, and can often never be forgiven. So, when sussing out a new partner, it makes sense that many people look for red flags that signal their S.O. might cheat. However, a more constructive way to do that might be to flip it around. Instead of looking for signs of a cheater, look for signs a person would never cheat. Here, therapists share the commonalities they've noticed in people who rarely partake in unfaithfulness. Read on for their advice.
They're chill with their tech.
According to Steve Carleton, licensed clinical social worker, a person who's cheating might be protective of their devices, either keeping them hidden or utilizing security measures like excessive passwords, fingerprint technology, and encrypted apps. If your partner is less inclined to cheat, they may be more laid back.
"Because they have no reason to hide anything, they are likely to be more relaxed with how they use their devices and not worry about someone accessing information they don't want to be seen," explains Carleton. "If their partner has questions or requests regarding their phone use, they are willing to be compliant and share details without hesitation." If they have no secrets, then there's nothing to protect.
They've never cheated in the past.
If a person's never cheated in the past, they might be less likely to do so in the future. "This is because a person's previous conduct is frequently an excellent predictor of future behavior, particularly in questions of integrity and personal beliefs," says Marley Howard, licensed marriage and family therapist.
It's worth noting, though, that you can never know for sure. "People's behavior and circumstances change over time, and numerous reasons might lead to infidelity." However, if you enter a rough patch, you'll know that your partner has stayed faithful in the past, which speaks positively to their values.
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The two of you have a high level of emotional intimacy.
Your relationship also comes into play. If it's solid, cheating might be less of an issue. "Couples who have built a strong emotional connection are more likely to be satisfied and fulfilled in the relationship, which can help them resist the temptation to seek out someone else," says Carleton.
The key thing to look for is emotional intimacy. "Signs of emotional intimacy include being able to express feelings and thoughts openly, being able to talk through disagreements without arguments, and feeling comfortable and secure in the relationship," says Carleton. "Having emotional intimacy also means that each person feels accepted by the other and is not afraid of judgment or criticism."
These couples share vulnerability, trust, and understanding. If they feel something is off in their romance, they bring it up and communicate openly about it.
They have these personality traits.
Your partner's general personality can also predict their cheating potential. Michelle Giordano, a therapist at Live Another Day, finds that in her experience, a few traits signal people are less likely to partake in infidelity. Those traits are conscientiousness, self-control, empathy, secure attachment style, and high self-esteem. They often mean people are responsible, reliable, in tune with others' emotions, comfortable with emotional intimacy, trusting, and able to resist temptation.
"However, it is important to note that these traits are not the only factors that influence whether someone cheats and that there is no foolproof way to predict infidelity," Giordano adds. For best results, trust your gut.