Relationship Red Flags You Should Always Ignore, According to Reddit Users
These may arouse suspicion, but they're not deal breakers.
When you’ve just entered a new relationship, it’s important to look out for red flags. However, one of the downsides of the commitment-phobic culture that we live in today is that people give up on each other a little too easily. The minute that you tell your friends one thing that the other person did wrong, their response is, “Ditch him. He’s the worst.”
The reality is that no one is perfect, and sometimes it’s worth getting to know someone a little bit and figuring out the motivation behind some of their issues in order to figure out whether it’s a deal breaker or something you can work with. Not to mention, sometimes, opposites really do attract, and your strength can provide support for some of their weaknesses.
That said, one Redditor recently asked people to share the red flags about their spouses and partners that they’re happy they ignored—and their answers were very illuminating. Read on for some of the more compelling answers. And for red flags that you definitely shouldn’t ignore, check out what 20 People Learned After a Failed Relationship.
“She’d worry over the smallest things,” one Reddit user wrote. “Anything that went wrong (dentist, food going off, traffic, not having enough time to wash her hair) would send her into a panic and put her in a foul mood that could last for hours. I’m the exact opposite. Completely laid back. If the dentist doesn’t have good news I’ll accept it and not worry, if food goes off I’ll pop down to the shops and grab some more and if we’re late because of traffic that’s just how it goes. I thought her moods would be the thing to end us, to slowly wear down my patience to a point where I’d stop trying to comfort, reassure and calm her down. I was wrong. Reader, I’ve never been happier. And we’re good for each other. I can calm her down and she can make me care about things I didn’t used to think were a big deal but ultimately are. We work so well together.”
An Odd Sense of Humor
“My spouse [has a] very weird and unusual sense of humor,” one Reddit user wrote. “I was afraid he was mentally unstable. He would draw weird cartoons, mimic people’s voices and mannerisms (creepily accurate) and tell the craziest stories. Turns out he’s just hilarious and he usually keeps me belly laughing once a week.”
“He’s a Loser”
“When I met him, my husband had just closed his comic book store,” one Reddit user wrote. “I had a few people who didn’t know him at all tell me that he was a loser because he had a comic book store and that ‘type’ never does well in life. I knew his store closed for reasons out of his control (business partner had cancer, sold the store to pay for treatment), and that he was seriously depressed about it. No one else seemed to see the man I did and I felt like I was stealing him. Legit the most generous, kindest, funniest, smartest dude I’ve ever met. I’m glad I ignored them because I doubt I could find a better partner in life. There’s been a lot of [stuff] thrown at us but we have navigated it together. I love him and despite how much the rest of my life sucks, my marriage is resilient and healthy.”
Mental Health Issues