Here Are Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard's Secrets to Marital Bliss

"Relationships aren’t just perfect...We work it like a job."

As celebrity couples go, Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard are right up there with Blake Lively/Ryan Reynolds and Channing/Jenna Dewan Tatum as one of the most solid married couples in Hollywood. But the pair, who have been married since October 2013, have emphasized that being happily married isn't as easy as it looks.

"It's not effortless. It seems effortless," Shepard told People Now in a recent interview. "Relationships aren't just perfect…We work it like a job."

Earlier this year, Bell echoed those thoughts, admitting that going to couples' counseling really helped.

"We have a very healthy marriage and we got there by doing therapy when we needed it, and constantly doing fierce moral inventories. We both take responsibility when we are wrong, and I think it is easy to work with him because I married him, because I enjoy spending time with him and I trust him. That is exactly what I want in someone that I work with."

Shepherd, 42, said that it's also critical to make time for dates, instead of just expecting romance to happen.

"If I say, 'Hey, what are you doing Thursday?' It's never going to happen. But if I put something on the calendar … it works out. But you do have to take it as seriously as you take your work commitments. It has to be scheduled and you have to prioritize it or it doesn't happen."

But you should also schedule in some time to be spontaneous and treat your spouse to a romantic surprise, as he once did during a rough patch:

"We got into this really crazy one-upmanship of — so she was doing a movie in Alaska and I was shooting Parenthood and I couldn't go and she was going away for a long time. But then my schedule changed and I didn't tell her, so I got the seat next to her on the airplane and then I sweet-talked the gate representative to let me on the plane early. So when she went to sit down, I was in her seat reading a newspaper and she kept going, 'Excuse me, sir. Excuse me, sir. I think you're in my seat. And then she noticed those hands look familiar and then she started bawling when she saw that I was on the flight. And then so she did it to me on the way back."

If you want more examples of middle-aged romance, check out this piece on What Love Looks Like In Your 40s.

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Diana Bruk
Diana is a senior editor who writes about sex and relationships, modern dating trends, and health and wellness. Read more