50 Easy Ways to Be a (Much) More Romantic Man

It's the little things that make her swoon.

50 Easy Ways to Be a (Much) More Romantic Man
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To be clear: Despite what rom-coms and the above headline might imply, romance isn't simple. In fact, there's no formula, fix, or surefire move that will automatically make you worthy of a Luther Vandross lyric. That's because romance depends on so many factors—from your relationship status (are you courting or are you comfortable?) to all the other internal stuff that you bring to a relationship, a rendezvous, or any one moment in time. And that's not even including the factors like self-esteem and trust that influence how we give and receive romantic gestures throughout our lives.

Despite romance's complexities, that doesn't mean you can't improve your amorous arsenal with your partner. After all, isn't the whole point to dance with your beloved through life in sync, close together, and maybe even a little sweaty, too? So read on, and learn how to raise your romance-level through the roof. And for more amazing tips, know what to avoid with the 40 Relationship Tips That Are Actually Terrible. 

1
Hug Like a Dog

Woman with Dog Romance

Hugs and kisses should have energy, says Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, host of the @SexWithDrJess Podcast. "Use your dog's energy and enthusiasm as inspiration," she says. "When a dog greets you with a wagging tail and affection, it calms your nerves and makes you feel loved."

2
Text an Emoji for No Reason

Guy on Phone Smiling Romance

Shoot her the old "heart eyes" in the middle of the day.

3
Give This as a "Just Because" Gift

Man Giving Woman Gift Romance

A favorite Instagram post of the two of you, printed and framed.

4
Commit to One Minute

Man Making Woman Breakfast Romance

Take 60 seconds every day to do something that makes your partner feel important, says O'Reilly. That can be anything from making their tea to warming up the car to cleaning a laptop screen. "Small favors pack a huge punch in terms of maintain the connection," she says. "When you make them feel important, they benefit from a boost in serotonin, which can help you ignite passion in the relationship." And if you're still on the market, know the 40 Best Dating Tips for Men Over 40. 

5
Thanking for the Little Things Means a Lot

Couple Hugging Romance

Say thank you for things you take for granted, like grocery shopping or any kind of run-of-the-mill responsibilities, says O'Reilly. It reduces the resentment and increases the harmony, she says.

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You Can Never Go Wrong With Extra Attention

Woman getting kiss

To the neck.

7
Warm Wins

Woman wearing a towel

Greet your partner exiting the shower with a towel you just took out of the dryer.

8
Memorize the Law of Floral Relativity

Man Giving Woman Flowers Romance

Getting flowers < knowing which flowers to get < Surprising with flowers for no reason at all.

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Memorize the Law of Domestic Relativity

Man Cleaning Home Romance

Doing chores < doing your partner's chores < cleaning the toilet/sheets/towels before they need cleaning.

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Memorize the Law of Social Media Relativity

Couple on Phone Romance

Posting < commenting < keeping it to yourself.

11
Prepare More Meals Together

Couple Cooking Together Romance

Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Neuroloveology: The Power of Mindful Love & Sex, recommends a fruit salad as the go-to dish. "I know it sounds simple," she says, "but once you stand by side, slicing juicy mangos, peaches, oranges, plums, and apricots, it won't be long until you'll be feeding each other the succulent fruit." And also: Know the 17 Worst Things a Man Can Say to a Woman. 

12
Back Off Sometimes

Woman Sleeping

Smothering may work for butter, gravy, and marinara, but not for relationships. Time alone makes for better time together.

13
Say These Phrases More Often

Couple Dancing at Home Romance

"You look…"

"Miss you."

"Wanna dance?"

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Say These Phrases Much Less

Couple Having Argument Romance

"Wanna [other verb]?"

"I think."

"Dilly dilly."

15
New Never Gets Old

Couple Doing Yoga on Mountain Romance

Date night for long-term couples should use strategies from short-term couples: Trying something new each time. Studies show that novelty is good for romance. It can be as simple as driving across town for dinner to get away from routine spots or more elaborate outings like doing some kind of weekend retreat that focuses on something like cooking or yoga. For more inspiration, check out the 40 Best Date Ideas if You're Over 40. 

16
Take Turns Taking Charge

Woman Leading Man in Bed Romance

Goes for decision-making, meal-making, love-making.

17
Sugar Needs to Overpower the Salt

Man Whispering in Woman's Ear Romance

Research shows that when communicating with a partner, you need to make five positive comments for every negative one, says Sadie Leder Elder, Ph.D., associate professor at High Point University who studies romantic relationships.

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It's Better in Real Life Than in an Emoji

Couple in Bed Romance

A wink is only effective if it comes sparingly and selectively.

19
Volunteer Together

Couple Volunteering Romance

Research shows that those who do something altruistic outside of the relationship have a better connection.

20
Write More

Man Writing Love Note Romance

Love notes are good. I'm-sorry notes are better.

21
Cheer!

Man High Fiving Woman Romance

Treat good news from your partner the way you would a sporting event. A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found better relationship satisfaction when a person was very enthusiastic about good news from their partner. And for more amazing tips, learn How 50 Famous Men Wooed The Women of Their Dreams.

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Play

Couple Playing Ping Pong Romance

Ping pong.

23
Untether When You're Together.

Couple Drinking Coffee Romance

A Baylor University study found lower relationship satisfaction when couples perceived their partners choosing their phones over them.

24
Don't Try Too Hard

Couple With Giant Stuffed Bear Romance

Cliché that doesn't come off like one: Wine, pizza, and a movie. Cliché that does: 4-foot tall stuffed animals.

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Share

Couple Sharing Dessert Romance

Dessert. The remote. Laps.

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Do Not Share

Couple Looking at Phone Romance

Toothbrushes. Offices. Sub-tweets about your relationship.

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Schedule Some Stealth Convo Time

Couple in Car Romance

If logistically possible, carpool every so often. It's a chance to catch up and slow down in an otherwise hectic schedule.

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Get Away

Couple Hiking Romance

Hike a little more. Hustle a little less.

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Accordion the Way You Touch Each Other

Couple Holding Each Other Romance

Vary from so-so-so-so light to love-love-you tight.

30
Shop for Smells

Couple Having Romantic Dinner

Candles can bring different scents into your home, but you can make the smells even more personal by taking a trip to a spice or herb market and picking out ones you both like, Cadell says. Combine them to make a customized bowl of scents for the bedroom.

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Summons Your Inner Detective

Happy Couple Romance

Notice something that never gets noticed.

32
Give In

Couple Making Up Romance

You don't need to win every disagreement. The willingness to sacrifice is a big component of increasing connectedness in a relationship, Elder says.

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Practice Patience

Couple Undressing Each Other Romance

Undress yourselves slowly and silently, Cadell suggests. Watch. Listen. Wait.

34
Good Ears Will Never Let You Down

Man Surprising Woman Romance

Tune in for birthday-present hints starting at 180 days out, not 180 minutes.

35
Text for More Than Logistics

Man Sending Flirty Texts Romance

Wordplay is foreplay.

36
After-play Is As Important

Couple Cuddling in Bed Romance

One recent study showed that both relationship and sexual satisfaction increased when as much time was spent being close with each other after sex as it was beforehand.

37
Customize Every Toast

Couple Clinking Glasses Romance

When you clink glasses, say something short, say something specific, say something sneaky. "For helping our daughter with her history project" trumps "Cheers."

38
Volley, Volley, Volley

Couple Talking Over Coffee Romance

Ask more than you answer.

39
Add This to Your Shopping List

Woman Covering Man's Eyes in Bed Romance

One of Cadell's favorite ways to sweeten sex is a game using honey, your body, and blindfold.

40
Use Your Bathroom Better

Woman Shaving Partner Romance

Shave her legs. Shave his face. Hot water, lather, steam, skin, and sharp objects make a cocktail of trust and sensuality.

40
Keep Your Eyes Open During Sex

 

Couple Making Eye Contact in Bed Romance

Especially at the most vulnerable moment, Cadell says. "Even sexier than seeing is to truly feel like you are being seen," she says.

41
Get Away to Get Together

Couple Swimming in Ocean Romance

Vacations, even for one night, can start the simmering. Vacations, if they involve bathing suits and bodies of water, raise the temp to boiling.

42
Read the Most Important Sentence in This Whole Piece

Man Biting His Tongue in Argument Romance

The most underrated use of your own tongue: Biting it.

43
Surprise More

Man Surprising Woman with Balloons Romance

Remembering a wedding anniversary is a given. Remembering a stealthier anniversary—a first date, a first sight—is golden.

44
Forgive Mistakes More Easily

Confident Couple Romance

People with high self-esteem report having higher levels of connectedness, Elder says. Part of that comes from feelings of unconditional love—the kind that parents give children, she says. That doesn't mean you can't have conflict, but forgiveness shows relationships are less fragile.

45
Share Content

Girl Smiling at Phone Romance

Send an appropriate-to-your-partner story link with the subject line "reminded me of you."

46
Walk the Dog Together

Couple Walking Dog Romance

And not as a chore. It's a time to bond, a time to chat, and a time to—literally and metaphorically—show that you're willing to be the one to clean up the crap.

47
Commit to 15 Minutes

Couple Stretching by Bed Romance

One night a week, help each other stretch before bed.

48
Be Kind

Double Date Romance

To your partner's other circles—friends, family, co-workers—even if you mix together like OJ and toothpaste.

49
Compliment

Man Giving Woman Kiss on Cheek Romance

Accomplishments as much as—if not more than—appearances.

50
Hold Hands

Couple Holding Hands on Couch Romance

When nobody is watching. When everybody is watching.

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