Few things are more gratifying than having your partner look up at you with genuine amazement after you’ve made her body sing it ways it never has before. (Gratifying for you and her, of course.) But sometimes after an A-plus, hole-in-one, gold medal session, she’s not the only one laying there, astonished at what might have been the best sex of all time, ever. How the hell did I do that? you think. And can I repeat it? Well, here’s the good news: You can. Easily. And there’s no practice required. You can do it again tonight. Just follow these five tips to a T and you’re sure to blow her mind like never before. And for more tricks for having the absolute best sex you’ve ever had, brush up on the 30 ways exercise is scientifically proven to boost your sex life.
Sure, you’re looking for elaborate techniques that will shock and awe. But none of those matter if you don’t know her turn-ons, the things she responds to and—perhaps most importantly—the things she can’t stand. Tonight, in a relaxed setting, initiate a conversation about what she likes. Take mental notes. She wants to be heard, and chances are she’ll be giving you some news you can use.
If she’s coy, encourage her to get into some specific areas: Does she like to be dominated? What sort of porn does she enjoy? What makes her come the hardest? Are there trigger words or imagery that help her get to where she wants to go? What does she fantasize about doing? Not only will you gather valuable intel about how to conduct yourself when things get under way, you’re already stimulating her biggest sexual organ (her brain, dummy) and becoming better in bed before you’ve even laid a hand on each other. Just make sure you don’t say any of these moment-murdering phrases.
It’s not true of all women, but many report that a prolonged session of kissing and above-the-clothes groping can greatly heighten her level of arousal, often indicated by the amount of natural vaginal lubricant she produces. Although your unbridled enthusiasm will be appreciated, getting her all juiced up before your fingers have wandered between her legs will really pay dividends if you’re looking to make a lasting impression.
If you see her squirming, rubbing her thighs together, spreading her legs, or simply grabbing your hand and placing it on her crotch, a successful session is practically in the bag. Pro tip: put together a great playlist you’ll both enjoy and spend three normal-length songs at first and second base. By the time you round third, she’ll be waving you in. And if you really want to show her the best sex of her life, check out one the yoga moves that are certain to improve your sex life.
Women (and men) have far more erogenous zones than the handful we fixate on. If you’ve been following this guide, you’ll already be stimulating one—her brain—by encouraging her to think about what she likes. Give a similar amount of a attention to her scalp, ears, neck, wrists, fingers, and feet, and make tonight’s session an all-body experience she’ll be bowled over by. For more advice on having the best sex of your life, learn the 25 easy ways to turn yourself into a sex god.
Simply put: She’s working with a lot you don’t have. Probe the internet or crack a book and give yourself a refresher on what parts tend to respond favorably to what stimuli. Be reminded, for example, that some women find direct contact to the clitoris too intense and that simulating the area around it or manipulating it through the clitoral hood is a great way to start gauging her comfort level. Learn about how rubbing an area around two or three inches into the vagina and on the front anterior wall may be something that she’s a fan of. (While you’re researching, you’d also better Google what “anterior” means.)
It’s not always the case, but a common complaint women have is that men’s sexual response doesn’t always line up with theirs, timing-wise. No one likes to be the proverbial two-pump chump, so forget what you think you know about how a sexual experience. It’s not your fault, of course. The baseball analogy I used earlier strongly suggests a certain sequence. But if you feel like you’re always getting close to the “point of no return” too quickly, get in the habit of pulling out. Then go down on her, stimulate her manually, kiss her other erogenous zones or simply make out until things have simmered down a little. Employ this technique enough, and you’ll be able to get a better sense of your own response gradually lengthening the amount of time you can have intercourse. And if you need some more help in this area, learn the 5 ways to make sex last much longer.
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