Some men liken sex to pizza: Even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good. Those dudes are what I like to call “wrong.” Chances are, more than a few women they’ve slept with wish they’d gone to Sbarro instead of bumping uglies with those mongers of mediocrity. Acquaint yourself with the four sex positions below, and you’ll be the one she calls when she wants something gourmet delivered. And if you’re looking to improve your performance in the bedroom, learn about the 30 ways exercise will stratospherically improve your ability.
The clitoris. Many women’s orgasms are dependent on stimulation of its pea-sized head, which is physiologically analogous to the head of your penis. Here’s the thing: the clit is situated a short distance from the vaginal opening. In fact, research has determined that the greater this distance is, the less likely a women is to have an orgasm through intercourse alone—and just a fraction of an inch can make a difference. But don’t think of the way the penis and vagina fit together as a design flaw. It’s more of a design challenge. The good news? There’s an orgasmic work-around, and it’s called the coital alignment technique, or CAT.
CAT is essentially a tweak of the missionary position, and that’s how you’re going to start out. Once you’re happily inside her, shift your body toward her head. By doing so, your pubic bone will be in contact with her clitoris. In this position, you’ll use more of a grinding motion, and in doing so, you’ll give her the sort of clitoral stimulation most women need to come.
In the advanced version, she puts her legs together underneath yours, so you’re essentially planking on top of her. Inch up a little more, and using a drilling downward motion, rub the top side of your penile shaft on her clitoris. You’ll want to be hard as a rock for sex positions like this, so learn the 11 secrets for harder erections.
Although many women orgasm most readily via clitoral stimulation, a good number can come through the stimulation of an area on the front wall of the vagina, about 2 to 3 inches from the opening. You may know it as the “G-spot,” although in recent years some scientists have asserted that this spongy area is part of the clitoral complex. But don’t get bogged down in the nomenclature. Just find a position that puts your penis in contact with it. To that end, doggy style should be one of your go-tos.
Of all sex positions, this one allows for deep penetration and stimulation of the area. The beauty part is that even if your partner is one of the many women who require clitoral stimulation to come, she’ll find it a snap to reach between her legs and use her fingers or a toy while enjoying the deeper penetration and bestial feel. Hell, if you’re a proficient multitasker, you can reach between her legs and give her a hand yourself. Start by getting behind her, and if she’s not doing so already, encourage her to raise and lower her upper body to search for an angle that works for her. And if you’re looking to rev your engine, read up on the best everyday sex drive boosters for men.
If you’re looking among sex positions that offer deep penetration, a better-than-good chance of stimulating the special spot on the front wall of her vagina, and mutual access to her clitoris, look no further than The Bridge. It looks like a two-person yoga pose. Done right, it can be transcendent.
Start off in missionary. Ask her to bend her knees so that her feet are flat on the bed or floor. Then, holding her hips, shift back onto your wide-spread knees, supporting her weight as you bring her up and toward you. Keep slightly bent at the hip, and sit your ass on your ankles. She’ll be able to rest her bottom on the tops of your thighs to make this less of a feat of strength for you. And if yoga-based sex positions inspire you, read up on the yoga moves that will instantly transform your sex life.
When she takes the reins, she’ll be able to control the speed, depth, and angle of penetration and assume a supremely pleasing positionCowgirl is the sexual equivalent of tossing her the car keys: “You know how to get us there? Be my guest!” To begin, lie on your back so she can straddle you, facing in your direction. From this position, she can grind or move back-and-forth, up-and-down, in circles, or a mashup of all those motions.
As with doggy style, guiding her fingers or a toy to her clitoris will be a relatively easy proposition. Leaning backward or forward will alter the angle at which you enter her, and by planking on top of you, she can stage an inverted version of an advanced CAT position to better stimulate her clitoris. Other variations include putting her feet flat on the bed or the floor so she can work you vertically in a deep and dirty squat. Meanwhile, in every variation of face-to-face woman-on-top, your hands are free to stimulate her breasts and nipples with your hands, or lean forward to get your face in all that goodness, which may very well heighten her enjoyment of being in the driver’s seat.
Once you’ve both explored the many variations of a standard woman-on-top, she can straddle you facing your feet. Not only will that give you an arresting view of the action, she’ll expand the number of sensations at her disposal.
As with all four of these positions, everyone’s a winner! And remember, if your dingle has too much tingle, you may want to read up on the 5 easy ways to max sex last much longer.
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